National Domestic Violence Hotline       http://www.ndvh.org/

Abuse in America      On the average, more than three women are murdered by their
                                                             husbands or boyfriends every day.

Get Educated         Abuse is a pattern of coercive control that one person exercises over another. Battering is a behavior that physically harms, arouses fear, prevents a partner from doing what they wish or forces them to behave in ways they do not want. 

Battering      includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation.                             Among all adults, 39% say that they have experienced at least one of the following, with 54% saying that they haven’t experienced any:         Called bad names (31%)           Pushing, slapping, choking or hitting (21%)                                Public humiliation (19%) Keeping away from friends or family (13%)__________Threatening your family (10%)____Forcing you to have sexual intercourse without consent (9%)

Sheryl Cates, executive director of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, says many women may be in a potentially abusive relationship and not even know it. She says there are five indicators that a relationship is likely to become violent.

   1.                      Jealousy and possessiveness               2.                      Controlling behavior

   3.                      Verbal abuse                         4.                      Threats to harm you, your family or your pet

    5.           Isolation from friends and family 

 "These signs are not necessarily violent, but they can become violent and are precursors to violence," Sheryl says. If these behaviors are present in your relationship, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at                       800-799-SAFE      to be connected with help in your area.   
  



If the abuser is an addict, nothing is his fault, for anything what went wrong

or will go wrong, he didn't do it, someone else is responsible.  His druggy

friends WILL back him up til the end. (as long as he is at their level, and still

has some menial job(like paint a room for him) to give them some cash) 

You already knew the abuser regularly told lies, but will also deny this, his

mind & nervous system is 'crashing'.    

Bottom line, if the person your with, (whether you love them or not, no matter

how long   you've known them, is a drug user,)
you have just doubled the odds of becoming a victim of violence, don't fool

yourself, YOU can't help them. They must hit   ROCK BOTTOM, some, VERY HARD!!  


And when you do call the police and tell your story 30 times in order to actually get an

order of protection, make sure you have someone with you to help you keep your head

clear, for such things as 'do they have the facts written correctly', and'do they have the

address's written down correctly'  sound rediculous but its real.               

                                                        National Domestic Violence Hotline

http://www.ndvh.org/

Don't believe that if your in a public place your safe, you'd be surprised how many look the other way and do nothing to help you!!